Updates [Challenges for Me & No More Mr. Deployed]

I feel like I have been completely neglecting my blog, so I went back and looked back at the date for my last post.

5-2-13.

Has it really only been 5 days?

It feels like freaking forever...

 

But anyways. So I owe you all some updates and they really aren't all that good. I didn't get Insanity started up again last week, and I didn't start it up again this week. I'm such a slacker. But keep reading and you may understand the depths of my exhaustion which has led me to push Insanity off for just one more week...

 

I did manage to get a run in last week! I went out and did a mile with Miss KBug!! Omygosh, it was absolutely adorable to watch her run with me. She didn't make the whole mile at a full run, but she had a lot of fun anyways. We got a little over .25 miles and she stopped to walk for a bit, then again at .5 miles and at .8 miles. But I'm still very proud of her for getting out there and trying! Overall we ran 1.01 miles in 11m45s. And being as little as she is, even at seven years old, I think that's awesome for her!

 

Unfortunately for her, it means that I did not register her for the 5K we had talked about this weekend because I just don't feel that she is ready for something like that. She was absolutely exhausted from just 1 mile. I don't want to watch her crawling across the finish line after 3! But there are other 5Ks to run and we will choose one later in the year for us to run together!

 

 

In the meantime, though, I've finally gotten back into running this week! It's not much, but every little bit counts. Yesterday I ran a mile in the morning and a mile in the afternoon. I definitely think it was good for me to break it up since it's been a while since I haven't run more than a mile in a few weeks. My first run yesterday came in at 1.02 miles in 9m35s. I'm pretty happy with that because it's right about average for me. My second run wasn't by myself, though. PJP (my brother) and another friend (we'll call him Mr. Boston) ran it with me. Now, if you've read my updates before you know that PJP isn't exactly in shape. And I can say that one here because he'll admit it himself. He knows it and he wants to fix it, which is awesome. I'm very proud of him! I'm also proud of Mr. Boston for running with us yesterday. Mr. Boston was a member of the US Army and incurred a number of injuries during his time overseas which have led to multiple spine surgeries and a couple of knee surgeries. He knew going in to the run that he was going to be hurting, and he told me about halfway through that his knee was in a lot of pain, but he pushed through it. And it was amazing to watch him push through the pain, and push my brother through is. Talk about inspirational! So PJP, Mr. Boston and I ran .97 miles in 11m31s.

 

This morning I took KBug to school and I love running through the church grounds and over through the neighborhood in that area so I decided to take advantage of the beautiful weather and being in the area to get a run in. I didn't go far because I don't want to push myself too far too soon, so I only ran a mile and a half. 1.49 miles completed in 14m08s. I'm still averaging 9m30s per mile and I'm happy that isn't wavering, even if it has been a while since I ran consistently.

 

Mr. Boston, PJP and I are scheduled to go on another run sometime tomorrow, probably in the afternoon. I'm hoping to fit another run in this evening, maybe with KBug again, and I'll probably run tomorrow morning, too. I'm trying to get in at least 2 miles every day, even if I split them up. It's not about how far or how fast I'm going, it's about the fact that I'm just going, right?

 

The Orange Rhino Challenge... That's actually been going really well. I have actually managed to keep it up and haven't yelled at KBug in 20 days, including today. (You can read more about this challenge for me here) To be completely honest, it's actually a lot easier than I had ever imagined it would be. I used to think that yelling at KBug was the only way to get her attention, largely because she has a tendency to just be freaking loud all the time. But since starting this challenge, I've had to find other ways of getting her attention, especially when she's being troublesome. I've found that singing in funny voices and random pitches helps to get her focused on me because she's trying to figure out what the heck I'm doing. Starting to whisper everything I say helps, too, especially when she is the one yelling because she has to stop yelling to hear what I'm saying. And she finds both of these tactics to be absolutely hilarious most of the time which turns her shouting into fits of giggles. And oh how I love to listen to KBug laugh! It's like music and brings me such happiness!

And now for my final update.

No more Mr. Deployed.

What a freaking jerk.

 

You may recall that I wrote a post about anxiously awaiting his arrival back in the states after five months of nothing but emails and Skype. Well, I was anxiously awaiting and very excited. Until....

 

I got an email from his mother-in-law.

 

Somehow Mr. Deployed's MIL found my blog and recognized his picture. She decided to email me and tell me the story of him and his wife. Now, in the blog I wrote, I made her out to be some crazy lunatic of a woman who had nothing better to do than ruin her soon-to-be ex-husbands wife. I wrote that she had lied to me about them being together while he was on deployment and about trying to make their marriage work because I was going based on what Mr. Deployed told me.

 

Bad idea.

 

As it turns out, his MIL was there when he deployed and witnessed the tears, hugs and kisses between him and his wife before he left. It also came to light that when his wife found out about him talking to other women he begged her to forgive him, said he had a problem and told her he wanted to work everything out and go to counseling with her to make their marriage work upon returning home from deployment. The wife considered it and decided to give it her best shot until she found out that he was doing the exact same thing again just a month later. At that point, she left him.

 

I feel awful for his wife. I feel terrible that he put her in the situation she is in. And I am so sorry that I ever disbelieved her and for saying what I did about her. It was wrong of me and I should not have used this blog to do such a thing. I don't want to be that kind of person.

 

To be completely honest, I was starting to have my own suspicions about Mr. Deployed.... He had started lying to me about sending emails and calling me on Skype and had stopped talking about his homecoming altogether. It just seemed like he was trying to get out of talking to me the closer he came to coming home. And, if I hadn't gotten the email from his MIL, I had planned to tell him I didn't think it was going to work out anyways. Why? Well, I had figured out he was lying to me, for one. And two, if I wanted to be with Mr. Deployed, and only Mr. Deployed, I wouldn't have felt a spark with someone else. But I did. So I think it is all, ultimately, the way it is supposed to be, no matter how crazy it was getting there.

 

I don't feel like I wasted five months of my life on a relationship that didn't work out. I don't feel wronged the way that maybe I should. I don't feel like the victim of some dishonest man who went around behind his wife's back and lied to both of us. I just feel relieved. And like it is a lesson well-learned.

 

There are no hard feelings on my end. There isn't anything, really. It's just over. And if I hadn't previously written about him here and on my Facebook Page then I wouldn't have written this at all. But it didn't feel right to just leave everything hanging and not explain what happened with Mr. Deployed.

 

So there's my challenge updates, even though they're a few days late. At least I got them posted at some point, right???

 

Be sure to check back later for my post about KBug's Night Owl Sleepover Birthday Party this past weekend! I've finally gotten around to importing the pictures to my computer, so it shouldn't be long before you see them!

 

Oh, and don't forget to check out the Mom Can Ride Giveaway that I'm helping to host! Just click on the picture below and it will take you straight to the page where you can enter for your chance to win!